The Hidden Life Awakened’s mission is to provide a path that will encourage and nurture physical well-being, mental balance, and deep spiritual hope in as many people as God brings our way. This path is based on documented science, faith-based practices, and the living testimony of Betty Skinner. We offer this beautiful work to the world through BWS Ministries, Inc., a 501c3 charitable organization.
Over 50 years ago, Betty Skinner was hospitalized and told by her doctor, “You have a hole in your soul.”
She was forty-two years old, a mother of four, a wife of a successful businessman and community leader, a suburban socialite, a Sunday school teacher, and a civic volunteer. She was also the daughter of a father who suffered with “combat fatigue” and took his own life after surviving WWII’s Battle of the Bulge; the sister of a brother who died in the Korean War; and the daughter of a mother who never talked about the deaths of her husband and her son—or her daughter’s suffering.
Guilt, confusion, and shame gradually covered Betty’s true self with layer after layer of false behaviors she used to protect herself, and the gift of a precious soul, uniquely created by God, was lost to itself and the world.
Clinging only to her faith and a glimmer of hope, she journeyed from desperate clinical depression to wholeness and profound wisdom—without any of today’s drugs or therapies. Instead, she embraced the burning fire of her pain and found her way to healing and wholeness.
The beautiful wisdom Betty learned through her suffering is the focus of our book, The Hidden Life Awakened. Now in her nineties, she continues to be the guiding hand inspiring and encouraging all of our work.
Science and Faith-Based Practices
Emerging science now affirms that the organic path Betty travelled has the power to heal the broken body, mind, and spirit. By changing her thought patterns, Betty changed her life.
Neuroscience is growing in its capacity to map, through stunning new technology, how our thoughts, emotions, and choices register in the brain by a cascade of physical and energetic changes in the structure of its cells. Scientists now affirm that how and where we focus our attention dictates the content of the brain structure we create. By choosing to focus our attention (mindfulness and prayer) on uplifting emotional content (positivity and hope), and sustaining that moment for twenty-five seconds (installation), we little by little change our brain structure, which changes mental activity, which changes biochemical communication in the body, which epigenetically changes gene expression and thus our physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
Think of it this way: the act of replacing negative thoughts with good thoughts physically impacts the synapses in our brain, causing them to disconnect and make brand new connections, creating new pathways and cells devoted to right thinking. We turbocharge the process by engaging in positive lifestyle choices such as exercising, adding nutrient-rich foods into our diet, sleeping and resting well, and cultivating positive relationships. These combine synergistically to provide critical nutrients to grow healthy brain structure. Literally, in a process scientifically described as neuroplasticity, we physically change our brain!
The effects of this self-directed neuroplasticity are cumulative, so every time we make a choice for hope, we are turning the part of us that chooses into something different than it was before. Just as it takes more than one footstep, though, to create a new path in the ground, it takes more than one thought to make a new pathway in the mind. We have to choose to cultivate the good we want in our mind over and over again. Somehow, the Apostle Paul understood this when he said, “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
After years of a close spiritual friendship with Betty Skinner, we realized her amazing story had to be told as an encouragement for others who too were struggling. Betty gave her life to us in utter vulnerability—widely, freely, and holding the hope that it might speak to the wounded hearts of others.
The first day we arrived on Betty’s doorstep to begin taping, she was wearing the white sweat suit and deerskin slippers that we teasingly called her “saint suit”, because with her snowy white, monkish haircut she looked for all the world like a tiny, cherubic saint. She invariably greeted us with a welcoming hug that we had to fold in half for since she is not even five feet tall. The first thing you notice is the warmth and radiance of her smile. Her steady brown eyes are faded now but still so tender and full of love they seem to pull you into her soul—or maybe their safety just opens yours.
We spent endless hours recording her memories and astonishing wisdom. Always, she would call us back to believing Jesus, rather than believing our beliefs about Him. She willingly shared the most private and painful details of her life but would always move beyond the facts to the truth and wisdom God had revealed to her through those things. Our times together were sweet and profound, but even sweeter was the depth of love and wordless Presence we experienced in our silence together.
The Hidden Life: Awakened is a beautiful story of hope and deep healing that was birthed out of her suffering, her faithful practice of spiritual disciplines, her solitude in the midst of creation, and her quest for the loving Creator of it all. It is our heart’s desire to offer you the gift of a spiritual friendship with Betty in the hope that her wisdom and story might light a path for your own healing into wholeness, and make you a little more homesick for God.
Kitty Crenshaw & Cathy Snapp, Ph.D
Though Kitty’s and Cathy’s lives are totally different—Cathy is an off-the-charts extroverted heart person who has spent her entire career in the introverted world of graduate medical education and Kitty is an introverted head person who has spent her entire life in the extroverted world of politics—the things that brought them together bridged that gap. They share a love for constant laughter, great food, good wine, creation’s beauty, silly pranks, and glorious gratitude for the extraordinary gifts God has showered on them through Betty Skinner’s life and writings. That gratitude led them to write The Hidden Life: Revelations of a Holy Journey and The Hidden Life: Awakened to share Betty’s powerful life story with the rest of the world.
Kitty Crenshaw has had the privilege of being mentored by Betty Skinner for more than fifty years. She is a mother of two, grandmother of two, and has been married to Ander for almost fifty years. For most of her life Kitty has been immersed in the world of politics as the daughter of a politician and as Ander’s partner when he served in the Florida Senate and then in the United States Congress. He is now back in the world of business, so she has more time to spend writing. She has been involved in numerous civic and charitable organizations over the years with a very special interest in Hospice and the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation. She coauthored The Hidden Life: Revelations from a Holy Journey in 2006 and The Hidden Life Awakened in 2016 with Cathy. She and Ander live in Jacksonville, Florida.
Cathy Snapp, Ph.D has served on graduate medical faculty as the Director of Behavioral Medicine at the Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare Family Medicine Residency Program and as an Assistant Professor of Family Medicine at the Florida State College of Medicine. Cathy and her team were awarded over $8 million in grant funding to develop lifestyle medicine-systems based training models of diagnosis, treatment and training in mindfulness-based health and well-being for family medicine faculty, resident physicians, collaborative care teams, and patients. They were awarded the first family medicine residency program pilot collaboration with the Institute for Functional Medicine. Cathy currently serves as the Chief Behavioral Health Officer of the MBN Systems Group.