Betty encourages us to let go, dare to release our grip on the past, and move toward change.
Yielding, allowing, accepting, and trusting are the stages, if you will—or the process of—letting go. Letting go is painful because in our own hearts and minds, we have this illusion that where we are, we’ll probably be forever. Letting go has everything to do with daring to change—to not fear the change, to let go. I’d like to use a little analogy here of the trapeze artist. You know you’ve been to the circus, so you know how they have to go through a little never-never before the catcher grabs them, and that’s the way it is with us when we let go. We have to experience just for a while—and it’s a dark place—but it’s also a place where we learn trust. That as we swing through and let go, that in time—in time—God’s going to grab us and we’re going to be safe. But if we are fearful and continue to cling and not experience the never-never and trust, then we will not grow. We get back to process again. All of our spiritual journey involves movement—no clinging allowed. So as we let go in trust and dare to grow, we are also moving on our spiritual journey from good, to what’s better, to what’s absolutely the best. These are various degrees. The mystics call them degrees. The best is when all of our action becomes prayer and all of our prayer becomes action. Now we are totally whole, totally immersed in the abiding. Everything we touch is prayer, for God is there. So it doesn’t matter whether it is some glorious activity or the nitty gritty stuff, we are still touching and seeing everything with the eyes of love.